The Newest Version of Familiar

Experiment with change. New experiences become familiar surprisingly quickly. Replacing old, familiar reactions with new, intentional responses seems extra challenging to overcome. These thought processes are comfortable and second-nature and even if we can acknowledge they don’t always reflect well on us, it’s hard to subvert what we know.

A simple example would be mumbling a response rather than speaking clearly. The remedy is awareness, at least at first. The why isn’t important. Determining you’ve acquired mumbling as a type of vernacular from your parents or possibly as a result of your uncertainty of others’ desire to listen doesn’t change that fact that you’re a habitual mumbler.

What matters is how to stop mumbling and communicate better. Take note of the instances when/where you’re mumbling. Don’t try fixing the habit, just notice when it happens. Be consistent with noticing. Just see yourself in the situation: there you are, mumbling and leaving your sentences unfinished. It’s not worth getting hung up on how often/severely you mumble, just watch.

Once you’ve gained a handle on the ability to “watch” yourself when you mumble, it’s a smooth transition into watching yourself speak clearly. You are now aware you don’t mumble anymore. After a while it won’t be something new. You’ll become a habitual non-mumbler without thinking twice.

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