The new feminist is the non-feminist. This is the person who stops pointing out the false binary that is feminism: girl power, girl anything. You want equality, you want justice, you want to be heard? Me too. But I don’t want feminist power (girl power?), I want power. I don’t want a female voice, I want a voice. I don’t need to claim my gender proudly as if I have a stake in making it significant. My gender doesn’t matter, or at least it shouldn’t have to. I matter, and I’m looking forward to the day when all women everywhere won’t have to respond “me too” (to turn the hashtag on its preverbal head), because the fact will be implied, the conversation over. We’re living through a turning point in feminist history–human history–soon it won’t be the [x] feminist movement because the very concept of feminism will seem obsolete, kind of irrelevant. Women and young girls won’t have to march through our streets carrying signs that say, “Girls can do anything,” because that will be like saying, “Humans can breathe.” Of course they can, what’s the big deal?

That’s why we’re marching and making people uncomfortable and messing up the status quo. We’re feminists now so that soon we won’t have to be.

I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat, or a prostitute.

Rebecca West, Young Rebecca: Writings, 1911-1917

A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men.

Gloria Steinem

Moderately Improve

It’s January, go ahead. Maybe this won’t be a year-long marathon of self-transformation, though. Maybe this year will be more like multiple sprints. Can’t cut the sugar? What about one day a week? I bet that’s possible to maintain over a year, and that’s 52 days that you kept the commitment. Will you see real improvement? Maybe not, but worst case scenario you’ll become moderately better at keeping a resolution.

Although, be skeptical of self-improvement. Time management is the real focus, not you. Don’t strive for an ideal self, it’s overrated and kind of nonexistent. But basic time management skills? That’s a real game changer. Even moderately better time management gives you the handle on a life completely out of grasp in 2017. And I’ll give you a hint: less is more.

I think of this in terms of creativity. It’s a practice that requires a lot of time. I’ve been avoiding creative pursuits, alluding to lack of time, because that leaves my potential a mystery and saves me from failure/disappointment/frustration. I could be better at [x] if I wanted, “just not right now.”

This year is about time management, replacing the blah with the ‘this makes me feel human.’ For one afternoon a week, I’m going to do a creative sprint, 52 sprints in 2018. That’s moderate improvement.

You may not attain the highest height with one leap but my dear; you will reach your destination.

Jaachynma N.E. Agu, The Prince and the Pauper

Higher Standards

Whatever you decide, don’t let it be because you don’t think you have a choice.

Hannah Harrington

It’s not just about saving money. If you want to encourage the production of quality, don’t buy cheap. Yes, you can go to Walmart or Target and get 25 pieces of clothes and save some cash, but you’re going to keep them for a year or two tops, and then you’ll need/want something else.

Cycling through clothing every couple of years is your choice, but unless you expect to grow or shrink, it’s not the best choice you can make. It’s about quantity, sure, but getting more doesn’t mean better, it just means more. You can listen to the industry that encourages the massive consumption of cheap stuff with little value, or you can maintain a small closet of just the things you love because you understand the quality behind them. Clothes are just one example. Keep the highest standards you can and witness the changes your choices create.

It’s our choices that matter in the end. Not wishes, not words, not promises.

Alexandra Bracken, Passenger